10 Tips for Taming Tantrums

Tanturms_Cropped_0713_0Children are masters of creativity and imagination. This mastery certainly extends beyond make believe and the importance of education. Crying, foot stomping, hitting, biting, throwing things, and even breath holding are among the tantrum repertoire of all children. Children know how to push adult buttons, but never fear there is light at the end of the tantrum tunnel. The following tips can help stop a tantrum before it begins.

Be consistent in your daily activities. As you prepare to move to something new, give your child a five minute warning of the expected change. When your child knows what to expect and when to expect it they are more likely to adapt easily. For young children, surprise is tantrum trigger.

Keep Them occupied
When running errands, allow your child to bring along a small toy or a snack. If they are occupied with something, a tantrum is avoided.

Rest and Fed
Many tantrums stem from a child being tired or hungry. Make sure your child is well-rested and fed before leaving the house.

Set up incentives for your child. Everyone likes to be told they have done a good job. Children are no different. Have a reward system for appropriate behaviors.

Stay Calm
You know your child better than anyone else. When you see signs of frustration, speak to your child calmly. By staying calm, you are teaching them to do the same.

Tantrum Diary
It is important for you to understand what triggers a tantrum. The best way to do this is to keep a written record for a while. Make note of where, when, and tantrum method. This will go a long way toward avoiding the next tantrum.

Give your child some control over their life. Even if the choice is something like what shirt to wear, it allows your child some measure of control. Tantrums often stem from a lack of control.

Allow for No
Allow your child the opportunity to say no without fear. This is your child’s way of asserting their individuality and it is totally normal.

Many children who feel needy throw tantrums to get attention. Be sure that your give your child plenty of love and your undivided attention as often as possible.

Be Aware of Limits
Everyone has a limit as to what they can handle. Children are no different. It is always tempting to accomplish everything on your To Do List, but your child may not be up for it. They will become tired, hungry, or bored. Tantrums will happen when your child reaches their limit.

Following these tips is no guarantee that you will never see another temper tantrum. Tantrums happen and it’s normal. Keep in mind that your child is learning about themselves, pushing the boundaries, and growing.

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